Break The Glass Slipper with Crista Beck Podcast Episode 81

Do you sometimes feel like you please your date at the expense of your own happiness? If so, you’re not alone!

Pretzeling is when you contort yourself to get someone to like you. This can happen in many different areas of life, but it’s particularly common in dating and relationships. When you pretzel yourself for your partner, you might find yourself dressing differently, acting differently, or even changing your interests to match theirs.

On the surface, pretzeling may seem like a selfless act. After all, you’re just trying to make your partner happy, right? But the truth is that pretzeling is usually motivated by a desire to be loved or accepted. And when you’re not being true to yourself, it’s impossible to build a healthy and sustainable relationship.

If you find yourself pretzeling in your relationship, it’s important to take a step back and assess why you’re doing it. Are you trying to please your partner at the expense of your own happiness? If so, it’s time to make some changes. Remember, you deserve to be with someone who loves and accepts you for who you are – not who you pretend to be.

In this episode Crista will share some stories about the drawbacks of pretending to be someone you’re not, and offer some tips for staying true to yourself while dating.

You’ll Learn

  • How people pretzel themselves for love
  • Mistakes that a lot of single women make in the first few dates
  • Why single women pretzel themselves
  • That pretzeling yourself takes time and energy that could be put into better things
  • Why it’s hard to maintain a pretzeled persona over time – it’s stressful and tiring


The Host:

Crista Beck

As the host of Break The Glass Slipper with Crista Beck Podcast, Crista loves creating a place where single women can come to create loving relationships that last. She is also the author of the Amazon best selling book, Break The Glass Slipper: Free Yourself of Fairy Tale Fantasies and Find True Love in Real Life. 

Known as “The Love Radar,” Crista has been featured on ABC, NBC, FOX, and TEDx. Her love and dating advice has been heard by over a million people globally. With over 20,000 hours of meditation as well as an award winning violinist, Crista brings pure love to her 10+ years as a love & dating coach and matchmaker.


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