While there are no shortages of singles in this world and it’s sometimes difficult to meet the right people, there is one dating method that you can always count on, so long as you do it the right way.
Yes, when done well, online dating is one of the best ways to consistently and dependably grow your dating funnel.
However, many people either don’t focus on online dating in order to expose themselves to more eligible bachelors or bachelorettes, or they know it’s important, but don’t know what to do to maximize their results.
With that in mind, here are 3 online dating tips that are simple to implement and that can have a big impact on creating connections which lead to quality dates.
1. You Are Building A Connection
Whenever you match with someone for the first time, it’s critical that you send them a connection message so that you can begin building a relationship with them.
This initial message is to build a connection and to inspire them to take deeper steps into creating a lasting relationship with you.
The purpose of the initial messages is to help your new match get to know you, to excite them about what’s to come, and to generally create a feel-good sensation about their decision to message you.
For example, in this first message, you may:
Mention something that intrigued you about what they said in their profile
Ask them an interesting question about one of their pictures
Once they’ve been approached in a way that is engaging…. then you move them to the next stage…
2. Sort for Serious Minded Daters
As you bring new matches into your realm, it’s important to be able to sort them into whether they are someone who is serious about finding a real connection or is just on the app for fun.
You can do this by seeing if they ask you out on a date or by asking them on a date.
The main thing you want to avoid in online dating is to become a never ending pen pal.
At the end of the day, the purpose of online dating is to sort for the people who are serious about dating in real life instead of investing weeks of your time in people who are just passing time.
When you’re able to sort in this way, you save yourself time and you can get better results and dates as a result.
3. Hop On a Phone Call (Seriously, Talk With Them!)
One of the best ways to sort for people who want to date in real life, and to make sure you don’t end up on a bad date is to have a phone call.
A phone call is a very short and easy way, usually 20-30 minutes in length, to see if you even have a connection before you invest the time to meet someone in person.
For example, you may offer to hop on a call with someone before you accept a date or invite someone on a date.
Here are a couple ways you can express this:
- I love the idea of meeting you for coffee, but how about we hop on a phone call first, You free tomorrow at 7pm?
- I’d really like to get to know you better, you free for a phone call tonight at 8pm?
While phone calls can be an opportunity to build a connection with someone, it’s also important not to just give someone your number without setting a time to chat.
Here’s why…you can easily get lost in the back and forth of calling each other, or get lost in texting even more with your phone number without ever talking on the phone.
They key to having a great first phone call is to not put pressure on yourself. Just pretend you are at the grocery store waiting in line and having a friendly chat. At the end of the call, you’ll just need to see if they ask you out, or if you feel pulled to ask them out.
Having a phone call is going to save you so much time and will make the connection even stronger between the two of you before you actually meet in person. Then it won’t feel so much like you are meeting a “stranger.”
In the end, online dating can be a great option that all single should invest some time and attention to because you have access to many potential catches.
Even better, there are so many dating apps out there to use to attract your ideal person, so you no longer have an excuse not to be using one and creating more opportunities to find a real connection.
But here’s the thing, if you are feeling really stuck in your love life and you are not sure what to do, I am here to help.
I will gladly get on a complimentary 20 minute phone call with you where we can discuss what you want and what could be stopping you. I’m serious. I will gladly connect with you to hear what is going on and to figure out how to get you unstuck.
Click here to find a time.
I believe in your best love,
Her message has been heard by over a million people globally. Crista Beck has been featured on ABC, NBC, FOX, and TEDx. With over 20,000 hours of meditation as well as an award winning violinist, Crista brings pure love to her 10+ years as a love & dating coach.
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